Tracy Foster
Integrative Humanistic Counsellor
&
Cognitive Behaviour Therapist
What is Relationship OCD?
Relationship OCD is a sub-set of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), a mental health condition characterised by a cycle of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviours. People with OCD typically experience intrusive and unwanted thoughts, images, or urges that cause intense anxiety and distress.
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Stereotypical obsessions that many people relate OCD to can revolve around various themes such as cleanliness, health, symmetry, safety, or aggressive thoughts. However, if you are reading this, you know it is so much more than that and can manifest within anything that someone values in their life, such as their relationships.
Typical Relationship Obsessions and Compulsions
In response to these distressing thoughts, individuals with OCD engage in compulsions or repetitive behaviours to alleviate their anxiety or prevent a feared outcome.
Fear of being unfaithful/cheating on your partner, even with no desire to do so
Fear of losing your partner, constantly seeking reassurance from them
Overanalysing every little interaction or comment from your partner
Constantly questioning your feelings and doubting if you genuinely love them
Intrusive thoughts of your partner being attracted to others or being unfaithful
Preoccupation with hypothetical scenarios or 'what if' thoughts that could potentially harm your
relationship.
Obsessive thoughts about past relationships or ex-partners, comparing them to your current
relationship
Excessive worry about the future of your relationship
Comparison to other people’s relationships – either within your friendship group or social
media
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